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Tuesday, October 29, 2024

Stages of Emotional termoil

 DISCLAIMER: DON'T TAKE LIFE AND PEOPLE IN IT TOO SERIOUSLY.. BUT IF YOU DO THEN YOU'LL  SURELY AT SOME POINT IN LIFE FEEL DISHEARTENED.

I TAKE EVERYTHING HAPPENING TO ME LIKE AN EPISODE IN A SERIES WHERE I AM THE LEAD AND THINGS AROUND ME ARE LIKE A PLOT WHICH WILL KEEP ON CHANGING UNTIL AN HAPPY ENDING. THIS WAY LIFE BECOMES EASY TO DIGEST CAUSE OF COURSE YOU BEING THE MAIN LEAD WILL GO THROUGH UNEXPECTED DISASTERS AND GOOD STUFF TOO JUST KEEP ON DOCUMENTING THEM.

WRITING ABOUT IT HELPS ME KEEP A TRACK OF THE PLOT AND THE CHARACTERS IN IT, SO I CAN BINGE READ IN FUTURE WHEN I'M BOARED. 

THIS PIECE BELOW IS ONE SUCH EPISODE MAYBE A LITTLE BUMPY BUT INTERESTING.

Stage: Obsession 

 Sometimes forgetting a person can be so tough. One day you feel determined to not think about them but then just the next day you can't control it. Your brain gets Dopamine from thinking about them. You'll think that the feeling might fade as the days pass, but then the brain wants the happiness and sadness you get from thinking about the past the things that happened in the past, or about the things you wanted for the future. It's a trap that you get into.

Stage 2:Emotional dependence 

The shot of serotonin and dopamine can either make your day or spoil it. The person's presence is not needed for it. The moments in your head are enough. Out of desperation just to fulfill the greed of your head you try to get in touch with that person but then as we all know that person won't be back in your life ever again and so you again start to feel guilty for contacting them after being thrown away like a fly by them. You'll again start to think about them. This time out of anger but then nothing's different be it anger or love. All that matters is the brain getting their Dopamine because of their thought. 

Stage 3: Guilt

Again, guilt.  This time, you are worried about yourself. It's been at least five to six months since you last talked to them, but then why are the things so fresh in your mind? Will they ever fade? Will the craving to listen to their voice for one last time ever go? Will the feeling of wanting to share about all the things happening to you ever disappear? 

Will you ever be able to connect with someone in the future the same way you did with that person? Did a few life choices spoil your love life forever? 



Stage 4- Acceptance

Acceptance. Getting used to everything. That's very hard to achieve but not impossible. Maybe someday when you wake up you can finally feel you didn't think about them or the memory won't affect you. You'll no longer want to have them in your life and maybe even treat it as a joke. Basically, just move on like the other person did,

If you would've known that you had to go through all this just because of replying to a text you'd have never done that but things can't be reversed. The only solution is to accept that you are stuck but someday you'll get out of it but Ig he was indelible.

3 comments:

  1. buddy your writing is too good , it captures all the emotions and conveys them too.
    I recently read a line which goes like " god puts people in your life for a reason and removes them from your life for a better reason "
    this line might help you deal with whatever you are going through
    i would suggest just don't overthink ....

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  2. Thanks for appreciating the writing. It's my first time someone told me that. Yes you are right god has it's own plan... I am not actually going through all that. It's just something which I think I experienced in past. Now it's good.

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