As I am growing older I have come to realise that one should not crib about their life in front of others while meeting them or talking to them. It's just a more mature step and will help you keeping lots of bonds intact.
I used to frequently start ranting about lots of things like studies and life problems in general near the people I was comfortable around and it made me feel better, lighter and it was very subconscious from my side. But then once I was talking to one of my friend and he tells me how mentally draining it becomes when his girlfriend rants about her problems to him whenever they talk, and he told me how it made him feel heavy and really killed the vibe.
That hit me.
That instance really made me think about stuff. Don't I do the same when I get comfortable around people, but do I ask them if they are ready to hear all that? While venting to someone you are indirectly transferring the negative energy to them and people are not ready for all that. Everyone is dealing with stuff they are tired of and it's not an "OMG, WHY THIS HAPPENS WID ONLY ME?" world,
it's more of ——"THIS HAPPENS WITH EVERYONE, WE JUST DON'T TALK IT OUT LOUD" world.
Keep your trauma- dumping to yourself and use non emotional tools like––– Ai, a journal or maybe just an alone time walk on the terrace moon gazing to analyse and sort out your thoughts and issues.
It will save you lots of judgement and you will come up as a person who has their shit sorted out.
Venting can make you feel better but the image it gives is of an untidy person with lots of emotional baggage that no on wants to deal with except you yourself.
Also most of the times we already know the solution to our problems we are just willing to gain sympathy from others. It depends on you, who do you want to become someone independent and mature or someone who's just looking for a shoulder to cry on.
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